Mental health tip of the week: Strong Boundaries

Strong boundaries are your best friend. When you want someone not welcome in your life to stay away, you have to set and enforce strong boundaries. Staying away can include staying away from your family, your friends, your spaces, your online life, your exes, your work, everything…all the way “away”.

The boundary says it is all off-limits to them. This is how you keep and maintain your power. This is how you protect your peace.

This is how you support your mental health. Strong boundaries are what healthy, emotionally mature, well-adjusted balanced people use to keep unhealthy, emotionally immature, maladjusted, and unbalanced people away from them and from causing harm.  If this person or persons violate this boundary, do not engage with them and do not return their negative and corrosive energy.

Instead, use the tools around you for that. In my case, I used my board, my insurance, my prior supervisor, my local police department, my attorney, my friends, and my family to help stop the intrusive, hostile, and unhinged behavior of a person who is not only not welcomed in my life but covertly problematic. These types of people usually hide behind keyboards and computers, that’s the modern bully - taking cheap shots at you - they are dysfunctional, toxic, hostile, and covertly working to cause you harm. 

There is no amount of reasoning or rationalizing with them. Strong and clear boundaries and not engaging with them are the key to maintaining your mental health so that you can do what you need to do to stay safe and well. Set your strong boundaries and enforce them. Do not engage. Then go live your best fucking life! 

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