Mental Health Tip of the Week: Going No-Contact.

Mental Health
Written By Xiomara A. Sosa

The best way to take control of your mental health when other individuals are bringing toxic behaviors, decisions, and beliefs into your life, or if they are allowing outsiders to do so as their spouse, friend, etc., is to let them all go. 

Going no-contact. Completely detach yourself from the person and the individual(s) they bring into your life who are toxic,  negative, emotionally immature, and complicit in the harmful and disruptive drama. 

That means no social media stalking, no texting, no calling, no talking about them unless it’s with your professional mental health provider. Zero contact. 100% detox. 

Decide to cut all ties completely and leave if you safely can. 

Take your power back. Your daily life back. Your day-to-day peaceful existence back. Your family back. 

The loss will hurt and you will grieve and mourn it. Work through this with a trusted professional.

You will sleep and live more peacefully and without the stress or trauma that they are bringing into your life. This alone will serve your mental health in a much more positive way. 

100% no contact is for your mental health, not to manipulate or to punish anyone. It gives your brain and your central nervous system time to heal and return to their baseline. You deserve that. 

Xiomara A. Sosa

Hi, my name is Xiomara A. Sosa. I am the owner and Clinical Director of Summerville Women’s Mental Health Services.

I am a bilingual Licensed Professional Counselor and Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor-Candidate. I am supervised by Dr. Latrice Love, a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor.

I am Latina, born and raised in the Bronx, New York City, NY.

I am a first-generation college graduate and a very proud daughter of immigrants from Puerto Rico (a territory of the US) and the Dominican Republic.

When I am not working with the people I serve inside and outside of my communities, you can find me working on my nonprofit organization, The X-Studio: A Mental Health Cooperative, or on my podcast, The X-Podcast: Real Conversations About Mental Health.

Education

I earned my Bachelor of Science Degree in Psychology from Phoenix University and my Master of Science Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling with a specialization in Forensic Counseling from Walden University, both CACREP-accredited universities.

I have been serving clients since 2012, working in case management and other capacities, including counseling/therapy. My work has been consistently serving women and all other underrepresented communities, including communities of color, the LGBTQIA2S+ community, and the veteran community. The bulk of my work has been in anxiety, depression, dysphoria, and trauma/stressor-related disorders, and other specialty areas and issues.

My specialization is women’s mental health, integrative mental health (IMH), and multicultural counseling/therapy. My foundation is in cultural competency and social change advocacy. I focus on combining evidence-based treatment with alternative therapies. My focal point is on treating the whole person, not just the symptoms of a particular illness or concern. That includes mental health, physical health, emotional well-being, interpersonal relationships, and spiritual needs. I help clients identify patterns in their lives that may contribute to their struggles and work on developing strategies for making healthier choices. I am also a 9/11 survivor and a proud United States Air Force and Army veteran. You can read my full bio on my website at www.swmhs.net

https://www.CounselorXiomaraASosa.com
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